I have no shortage of opinions about things. Some of them are malleable. I'm willing to change my mind at any moment if I can be persuaded. One thing I haven't changed my mind on is what I believe growing up means to me. This too, I'm willing to change my mind about, but the older I get, the more I believe I'm right about this belief.
When I was a young boy, I was difficult, to say the least. I jumped in, on, from and to things constantly. No matter what I was held in or buckled to, I found a way out of it. That part of me has changed a bit as I've "grown up", but in many ways it has not. I'm often finding ways to escape, from anything. From everything. I don't keep jobs for too long. I don't like sitting in a chair all day and I take walks in new paths as to not become too complacent.
I guess you could say I don't like comfortable. Which has been more of a God-send than a problem. It does create many problems for me. Don't get me wrong. But I'm often experiencing life in new ways and seeing things from new angles and that brings a lot of joy to my life as I discover new possibilities and limits.
To me, becoming an adult means to challenge yourself more than others challenge you. If you're having a bad day, let it be bad. No problem, tomorrow is a new day to reinvent yourself. If you're having a good day and life is not being tough on you, be tough on yourself. Mental toughness is the greatest attribute of an adult. When you get knocked down, get back up. When you get hit, take it.
Something I do often is to always blame myself before others. If something happens to me, I should have seen it coming. If someone causes an accident, I should have taken a safer road. If the tree falls on the house, I should have trimmed it long ago. This personal accountability will get me farther, than blaming others, or calling it dumb luck. If I want to learn, I mean truly learn from any situation, I have to be willing to let it sting a bit. Because most people only learn from failure and that is okay.
Learn from your failures.
Martin J Glennon