We are the Sins of our Fathers (Another Inmate Story)

The leaves were stirring like mini tornadoes as I made my way to the front door of the Porter County Sheriff's Department from my car.  I shook hands with Ben and we headed in to meet with "The God Pod" as they call it.  From what I am told, this is a unique bunch and prior to last week's encounter I may not have believed it at all.

The guard waved a wand up and down me and asked me to empty my pockets because my keys were setting the detector off.  She took my ID and passed me a badge.  

"Down this way." a Guard said as he was opening the door for us on the other side of the room. 

Ben and I were then escorted down the long corridor to meet with the men who awaited us.  Right away I saw some familiar faces and shook hands with a couple new people.  The newest addition to the pod stood watching a commercial patiently.  He was holding a device in his hands that allows him to listen to the TV.

Since I only stood a few feet away from him he decided to ask for my name and shook my hand.  I asked what he'd been watching and he told me about a man on Doctor Oz who'd had the first genitalia transplant in history.  He seemed to find this extremely fascinating and we both questioned why someone would want to talk about that on live TV with Dr Oz.

I decided to change the subject and asked what else he'd been doing since coming in.  He told me that he started reading the Bible for the first time.  The rest of the guys in the pod had been reading and he decided to join them.  He showed me a devotional he'd been reading and asked me some questions. 

This brought us to a discussion about why people become who they are.  The conclusion was that people without good parents inevitably choose one of two paths.

  1. The person uses their parents as an excuse to not be better
  2. The person uses their parents as lesson for what they don't want to be

This was a big epiphany for him.  He contemplated this and brought up his two sons.  He told me that one of his sons was just like him.  He said that son uses his upbringing as the reason for why he can not achieve or do anything with his life.  His other son decided his parents would not be his legacy and was determined to live a good life.  

We further discussed the complexity of this issue in his own life and it seemed to hit him that he was using his parents as an excuse for a long time.  It was a like lifting a weight off of his shoulders and I could visually see his thought process about the whole thing.  That was the end of our conversation, but the lesson learned was not lost on me. 

What do you think?  Are you using an excuse to not escape your circumstances?


Martin J Glennon