Are You Worth Knowing? - Five Reasons People Fail To Make REAL Progress

Since I was a little kid, I always had friends that were trouble makers.  It made for some fun times, but most of the time I'd be getting in trouble in one way or another.  I'd choose to go hang out with people who used drugs instead of studying for tests and reading books about real issues I had.  This was a trend of mine that I had a tough time braking until only about five years ago.

One of the things I remember giving up was going to church on Sundays.  I'm not one of those people that sit there and say that church is to be the center of your life.  Please, don't misunderstand.  That is not what I am saying to you.  What I am trying to say is that the reason this was bad is that the people I met there were not who I would normally hang out with. 

They were not what I considered cool and many times that was all it took for me.  If there was a big party on Saturday night that meant I could not go to church Sunday.  Now, what I was failing to realize is that, many people in the church congregation had a lot to teach me.  At parties, I already knew all I would there.  No one at a party ever made me think "Hmm, I need to improve myself more." 

Sure, having friends is fun and partying was fun to a young man, but now I realize the failure in that logic.  Everything I do now, I compare my choices by the value of the experience.  That is where the five reasons people fail comes in.  I listed them out nice and neat for you below.

  1. The people you spend the most time with.
  2. The people you spend the most time with.
  3. The people you spend the most time with.
  4. The people you spend the most time with.
  5. The people you spend the most time with.

Yep, you read that right.  I wrote the same thing FIVE times.  "Why?"  You might be asking.  "Has Martin lost his mind?"  You might also be asking.  No!  I didn't 

You see, if you are to talk to anyone successful and I mean anyone, in any field that you respect and admire.  You will find one overly present fact about them.  They spend most of their time with people who inspire them to work harder, think smarter, try more, be more, do more and push themselves more.

People are the exact combination of the 5 people they spend the most time with. I will give you an example.  Say you were Bill Gates, who are your closest friends?  Say you are Kobe Bryant, who would you hang around?  Say you run Hilton Hotels, who do you go to dinner with?  

You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
— Jim Rohn

The point is, if you suddenly found yourself surrounded by 5 people who were millionaires, every day, you would be the sixth.  The funny thing is, once I've pointed that out to you, you know it is true.  And if you're one of those people who wants to pick it apart and find the faults in that statement like there is a reward for it, then you need to ask your self something.  Who do I hang out with?

As you're around more interesting people your desire to improve increases.  Now, if you read this and it doesn't make you at least wince at some of the people you've hung out with, you've missed the point.  You might want to go back and re-read it.  It's time for you to grow.  To do that, you must cut some weeds.

Hope that helps you all!

Martin J Glennon